It’s a tradition that most people have long forgotten in this day and age: waiting until marriage to have sex. But that’s just what R&B singer Ciara and professional footballer Russell Wilson did!
The two got engaged while on vacation last March. They got married in July, and the two joked on Snapchat about their first time with each other. “So baby, you know what we’re doing tonight,” Ciara said. Wilson replied, “And what we did last night, I want to do multiple times!”
And that’s exactly what they did. By October, Ciara revealed that they were expecting their first child. Ciara already has a 2-year-old son with ex-boyfriend, rapper Future, and Russell Wilson was previously married to Ashton Wilson.
So obviously, neither Ciara or Russell were virgins when they married each other, yet they still decided to wait until marriage to do the deed. The question is, why?
Ciara answered that in Cosmopolitan South Africa. “I have to give credit to my husband for sharing those views. It’s awesome how it all worked out. We women think with our hearts and with our minds. When we see a guy, we envision what he’s like and whether this could be something special. Guys see us from an exterior point of view—that’s something I learned along the way as a woman.”
“You shouldn’t feel like you have to give your body away to get someone to like you.” And all of that waiting was a huge benefit to their relationship.
“I really believe that when you focus on a friendship, you have the opportunity to build a strong foundation for a relationship—and once you know you’re really great friends and you’re what we call ‘equally yoked,’ where you share the same values or the same outlook on life, it kind of sets the tone. Knowing that you’ll always have the friendship and that you can always go back to it is very important, and very powerful.”
Some people may not agree with or understand why Ciara and Russell chose to wait, especially since they’ve both had sex before, but it really doesn’t matter what other people think. It worked for Ciara and Russell and neither of them have any regrets about their decision.